A lady’s off-putting request has Reddit’s “Am I The A**gap” thread in a tizzy after she requested fellow Redditors if she could be a jerk for asking her buddy who suffered a miscarriage to present again her $400 child bathe reward.
She acknowledged that the scenario sounded “terrible,” and it was a “horrible factor to do” by even pondering of asking for the reward again, however she stated her husband, who is definitely nearer with the buddy, chimed in, mentioning how a lot they spent on a present that will “go to waste and certain by no means be used.”
“It has been just a few months since her loss and my husband is now not sure of how one can navigate the reward. It isn’t one thing she will use for her older child. Asking her to return the reward appears merciless, like including a chore onto her grief, and it is in all probability previous the return window anyway,” she wrote.
“I am additionally unsure if she’s going to maintain attempting to have extra youngsters (very dangerous for the infant and herself) and it appears extremely insensitive to ask, plus she might not have determined but. Asking her to pay us again for it additionally appears very merciless.”
She continued, “It is one factor if she’s capable of get just a few years of use out of the merchandise, that is cash properly spent. But when it will sit in a field in her attic for years…that is the place we’re getting caught.”
The OP desires to know if she and her husband could be the a**holes for asking about getting the reward again.
“Ideally we might get our a refund one way or the other though it is in all probability too late. If we will not then I would a minimum of wish to reward it to another person who can use it (I really feel terrible simply saying that however it’s how I really feel). Nonetheless that is such a delicate topic and we do not wish to stress her if she’s not prepared to debate it,” she concluded.
Reddit customers got here in full-force, noting that not solely would she and her husband be full a**holes for asking for the reward again, however her tone in her Reddit submit was additionally extraordinarily harsh-sounding.
“I really feel like OP (unique poster) is this like a marriage reward when the marriage was known as off. You’re imagined to return these. However that’s not what that is, and OP must get her head straight about that,” one consumer wrote.
One other matter-of-factly responded, “YTA it was a present. It should not include phrases and situations. You gave it away. It is gone.”
One other identified that not solely is that this lady going by means of one thing deeply traumatic, however she didn’t ask the OP and her husband to spend that type of cash on a present. That’s on them.
“She’s simply misplaced her child and her fertility. Don’t kick somebody once they’re down. When she’s prepared, she’s going to in all probability promote your reward and use the cash for one thing else, hopefully one thing that brings her pleasure,” the Reddit consumer wrote.
“You determined to spend some huge cash on a present. Possibly give much less sooner or later if you’re going to really feel resentful later. However do NOT add to this lady’s ache so you will get your a refund. That’s monstrous.”
As soon as thousand’s extra feedback rolled in, the OP responded to the unique thread and made issues even worse for herself despite the fact that she concluded that she and her husband will let the complete reward factor go.
“Individuals have additionally commented on my tone and I simply wished to make clear that Jen is actually solely my husband’s buddy, not mine. We aren’t “{couples} buddies” along with her and her husband. Jen and my husband had been shut as youngsters however have not been shut for years (earlier than I ever got here into the image), form of like a cousin you grew up with however solely speak to at main holidays now,” she wrote.
“I do not hate Jen, however we’ve got very totally different world views so, we doubtless will not ever be shut. I am sympathetic to Jen’s loss as an individual and as an individual who has additionally skilled miscarriages. However I’m not personally devastated by it if that is sensible.”
Positive seems like she’s over the entire reward factor, doesn’t it? Bombastic side-eye being thrown over right here.
Reddit customers continued to pile on the girl, noting that her heartless method must be extra of concern than her checking account.
One consumer summed the scenario up completely and stated, “I don’t know how one can hear somebody had a miscarriage and probably can now not have youngsters after which fear about how one can get your reward again.”
